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What is the quality of your living? Do you take care of your house, room, car, study desk, how you approach another person, your cloths, your speech and your thought’s.
What about the small things; flowers in the room, order in your life.
Do you have order in your life? Do you have a deep feeling for the place of excellence?
What about beauty and simplicity?
This is not a rigid perfectionistic approach where your sense of peace is dependent on your outer environment. But your inner peace and sensitivity and care create an atmosphere of order, peace, care, beauty and simplicity.
What is the effect of this inner quality on others when you meet them; on your life, situations at work and the order of your environment? The effect on you working practically in life and business; as well as your health?
Sensitivity is a feeling not an idea. Sensitivity to most people is a reactive. A reaction to what is happening in front of them. Most call this reaction a form of being sensitive.
To care is not to train yourself to be a caring well-mannered person. But where you are sensitive and have a deep connection and respect to that which you are looking at and to what you are doing. This sensitivity changes your actions, your speech and your thoughts.
One can be trained, like Japanese Gessie girls to have manners, etiquette and have elegance in communication, flower arranging etc. This is training from the outside.
Have you ever been in a garden where someone loves and respects the plants and earth? Have you felt something within this environment that is not in some other neat garden.
People are occupied (with thought) away to the external and away from the feeling of what is happening to their environment to what they are actually doing.
What is the quality of care you give to your partner?
Do you take time to look/observe at the details, the colour texture, of that which is in front of you. Feel the feeling. Being at one with what you are doing.
Care can have the same feel as these words evoke. Appreciation, gratitude, humility, to care for/look after. Mindfulness, loving tender and grace. Lightness and fun. To have strength and be firm. It has connections to the qualities of sensitivity, beauty and patience.
Caring in most peoples minds is a sign of weakness. That is to be fragile, cautious or fastidiousness. For example, “he hasn’t a care in the world”.
If you care/love something. You will nurture it.
It also means respect for another. Care equals quality. Like caring for your speech and the words you use.
You must care for cares sake and not to gain anything from it. Like one must care for you husband/wife, child, your office desk, car, garden and the quality of your thoughts.
When you see you begin to care. To see is to care. To observe is to love. You will care when you are watching.
If you love something you care for it.
The mind must be swift, without a word.
If you care for something you act accurately. If you care you have affection
As long as it doesn’t touch me, I don’t care what is happening out there. This is the use of language of the self. I don’t care what you think etc
On practical terms. Care of what you are doing – what you are doing in the office, because the office is not different from your life.
Through a quality of looking there is a feeling and appreciation of something else. The awe of creation. A creative force. What is it that allows you to even see and have appreciation and a deep feeling of gratitude? This not romantic, sentimental daydreaming. This feeling does not arise of mental talking to yourself (which is your own voice/dialogue) It is a sense of uprising feeling with no mental label
Can one acknowledge for no reason or attempt to define this sense of care, love and gratitude of the intelligent order.
TO PAY COMPLETE ATTENTION
If there is order in one’s life, real order, than what is meditation? Is it following certain systems, methods: the Zen method, the Buddhist mediation, the Hindu meditation, and the methods of the latest gurus? If meditation is determined, if it is following a system, a method, practiced day after day, what happens to the human brain? It becomes more and more dull. Is meditation something entirely different? It has nothing whatever to do with method, system, practices; therefore, it can never be mechanical. It can never be conscious meditation. It is like a man consciously wanting money and pursuing money: consciously you meditate, wanting to achieve peace, silence. The man who pursues money, success, power, and the man who pursues so-called spirituality are both the same.
Is there a mediation which is not determined, practiced? There is, but that requires enormous attention. That attention is a flame and that attention is not something that you come to; it is attention now to everything, every word, every gesture, every thought; it is to pay complete attention, not partial. If you are listening partially now, you are not giving complete attention. When you are completely attentive there is no self, there is no limitation.
The brain now is full of information, cluttered up, there is no space in it, and one must have space. Space means energy. When there is no space, your energy is very limited. The brain is now so heavily laden with knowledge, with theories, with power, position, so everlastingly in conflict and cluttered up, that it has no space. And freedom, complete freedom, is to have that limitless space. The brain is extraordinarily capable, has infinite capacity, but we have made it small and petty. When there is that space and emptiness and, therefore, immense energy- energy is passion, love and compassion and
intelligence - then there is that truth which is most holy, most sacred, that which man has sought from time immemorial. That truth does not lie in any temple, in any mosque, in any church. And it has no path to it except through one’s own understanding of oneself, inquiring, studying, and learning. Then there is that which is eternal.